I asked her this question yesterday in that conversation. If we broke up, and you were dating someone else, who would be "#1" in your life? The new man or the baby? She replied that is different. I said how? She refused to answer then went back to how she should be #1 in my life. And if she found another man how he would make her and the baby #1. Ugh she is living in a fantasy world.
I’m glad you asked that. Pointing it out to her. Good for you.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.