I am very pleased to see a housing solution has presented itself. That’s wonderful. And will certainly alleviate some stress.
Originally Posted by marching
I have been missing him a lot lately. For the first several months, I was just dealing with shock. Now, so many things remind me of H. There were even so many good times from right before BD. Laughter and passion.
It's hard coming across songs, articles, and videos that I'd normally share and discuss with him, too. It's really hard not having my best friend in my life.
Clearly I am not detached.
You are doing very well. What you are experiencing is perfectly normal.
From my view, you are starting the stage of withdrawal, which proceeds indifference. Withdrawal is painful. Our brain no longer having its dopamine rewards from interactions with our spouse, pains for that which once flowed so freely.
What you are feeling is likely to get worse. The best strategy is to limit exposure to those nostalgic memories. Pictures, songs, trips down memory lane are far to easy to get lost in. The boost of relief - dopamine - is temporary, and prolongs getting to the other side of this.
Make no mistake, when you get to the real thick of it - withdrawal is a battle. However, you are not unarmed in this fight. Reason, logic, and control are your’s to utilize. You fight the temptations and the pain. The better you do that, the quicker you find your way.
Once through withdrawal, old pictures, songs, movies, memories, and such, don’t trigger or hurt. The happy memories return and just are.
Be strong and stay the course.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
