Wayward Wife help (2)

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FwdMvmnt,

She is going around the house asking what’s hers tonight...She is wanting to sell things to make money for herself. I told her that anything that is ours or are assets that those need to be used for the family. She said my clothes and the kids clothes that my mom bought are mine. She’s going to sell things on eBay and have a garage sale I guess to use toward her own place. Interesting times.

Document those assets! Seriously. Video, pictures, spreadsheet. Protect yourself financially.

One of the hardest things for us to wrap our heads around, esp in long term marriages like yours, is the fact that your w is absolutely not on your team...Third, she is an opposing team, period. She will think of herself, her wants and needs and literally burn it down when she doesn't get what she wants.

Team W is currently the opposition. That doesn’t mean that it will always be that way. It also doesn’t mean you have to oppose her or fight her. Realize, you do not have to show up to every battle you are invited to.

^Wise words. Listen to them.

She did say that all this would be much easier if we could all act as adults and just get along.

It'd be much easier for her if you bowed to her every whim.

This isn’t first time she’s said this, I’ve been silent when she does, but curious as to best answer here.

Nothing wrong with a bit of silence sometimes. Also "I'm not interested in being friends"

I want to just tell her, look at yourself and what you are doing to this family and tell her to be the [censored] adult, but I know not to do that smile she claims the S/D will be l better for everyone and allow her to be a better mother.

So many say "it's best for the kids" and "it'll allow them to be a better parent". Utter BS to justify their actions. Don't by into it.

...You know what got her wanting me back and countless others. Not giving a rip what she wanted, said, or did. ...she didn’t understand why I was doing better without her....You want a chance of getting her back? Than make her stop and wonder where you are. What are you doing. She wants you to be single, so be single. I’m not saying date or have one night stands, but go do what you want without a care in the world how it affects her.

Wise words. I have seen others post the same thing.

Again, wise words. Listen to them.