Goodness I miss Sandi and am eternally grateful she took an interest in my situation.
Anyway, here’s my opinion and what worked. My ex ran the gambit from wanting me to harm myself and tried to get me too, to I’m meaningless, to let’s be friends to I want you back. You know what got her wanting me back and countless others. Not giving a rip what she wanted, said, or did.
There have been a few times when she’s called in the past and you know when she’s just telling stories to hear herself talk, and when she was being 100%. She told me she didn’t understand why I was doing better without her. Why I was busy, had a ton of friends, was always doing fun stuff. All of a sudden the man who was steady, safe, and always there (in other words boring) was the life of the party. She realized she screwed up and I was in the same boat she was. Going through the motions, I just didn’t cheat.
So, what do you want to be? Her friend? Nothing? Her husband?
You wanna be her friend, than be friendly. You want to be nothing to her? Than be a her doormat and constantly be there and text back and be available. You want a chance of getting her back? Than make her stop and wonder where you are. What are you doing. She wants you to be single, so be single. I’m not saying date or have one night stands, but go do what you want without a care in the world how it affects her.
This is just what worked for me, but as Sandi says; do what works.
Keep your head high, there is an end to this.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
