FM, lots of LBSs struggle with this. "It feels wrong." "Isn't it passive-aggressive?"

FM, here is the thing, the way you have been dealing with her hasn't been working, right? So you have to change that dynamic.

If this helps, when I started instituting these kinds of changes then suddenly my wife started to change. From always being on edge, thinking I was going to grill her on where she was, what she was thinking, etc. To relaxing around me, being more free to just have light, fun discussion, and not always thinking I was going to go into relationship status mode.

To change your situation you have to change the dynamic.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018