Granted some things are my fault, I am no angel. I own up to those things and apologize.
Good. Apologize and own your things.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
…my question is how? How do I validate when "everything" is my fault.
It’s about giving credence to the other’s emotions. Realizing that their view is important and true for them. Not defending your view.
“I see how you would feel that.”
“I’m sorry you feel that way.”
Of course, when the other is unjustifiably blaming, or the quantity of said blame is just so voluminous to even be reasonable, add a truth dart and bit of reality to it.
Perhaps a possible recent example.
“I’m sorry you felt unheard. However, you and your Dad were the ones not hearing each other. Dragging me into this is uncalled for.”
Open dialog is needed. And at times, that dialog can be difficult. Yet, that difficult conversation is what is often required to get to the crux of a situation.
And boundaries are often required to keep dialog respectful.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
