bttrfly, is spot on. She has a lot of experience and hard-earned wisdom. And well knows how disorienting and whiplash-ridden the LBS’ journey is, until we get our bearings.
There are definitely three teams. And you have to look after yourself first, to ensure you are able to look after team kids.
Team W is currently the opposition. That doesn’t mean that it will always be that way. It also doesn’t mean you have to oppose her or fight her. Realize, you do not have to show up to every battle you are invited to.
My experience with my W, team MLCer, she burnt down her life. Not as literally as your W was doing with certain martial assets, yet she completely destroyed her married life and her life as a mother. It is difficult to understand just how scrambled and lost some folks are.
Time and space FM. Give her plenty of both. For she will take it elsewise.
Focus on you and the kids.
Be compassionate and kind.
You have the gift of time. Use it well. Become the best version of yourself. A man only a fool would leave.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
