- consider putting all focus on raising kids to 18 before getting into an R
I think this is great a great suggestion DonH and certainly ideal. I'd like to do it for my kids, but my kids were S4 & D1 at BD and are S7 & D4 now. 14 more years is a long time to not have a companion, yet it's hard to see things integrating smoothly either - though I guess people do it all the time. I guess time will tell.
Yeah, I don’t think it’s fair for someone with kids who are babies when you get a divorce. Me for example. Obviously , I never went on to remarry or have a very LTR, but to say to not have any focus on York own relationship is just not feasible .
Many do go on to have healthy relationships and blend well. Maybe not perfectly, but doing things smart is the key.
