Thanks BL, I did contact some Ls today, have a consultation to cover rights next Monday. I hate doing this feels sneaky but cannot ignore the fact she said she was getting one and the emotional abuse comment. She also stated everything’s documented and everyone knows. So she’s obviously talking about this with who knows outside the relationship. I talk to this group, my sponsor and other men from my support groups, and IC only. Our families know we are in an in house separation and that she is in recovery for alcohol. I did have to talk to my parents yesterday and provide some details, due to her involving them, but did not bring up the SA issues my W has had.