Wolfman Moving Forward 5

[DonH]

I don't mean for this to sound harsh, but I hope people go back and read that part and see it as a cautionary tale.

I actually did exactly that, this AM for a couple hours. Clearly I need to get a life I just wanted to remember accurately. And I had but it was even worse. It was about 2 years ago where Wolf was pretty much in the same place he is now only the baby was still baking. It is very much a cautionary tale - one Wolf appears to for the most part admit.

Sadly this story is repeated over and over and over again both by those visiting here and across the world. Started dating while still married even after being repeatedly warned here not to. Didn’t want to be alone and sought out other women. Thought this one was perfect. I’m wondering how much her looks played into it. Then when life got real she showed who she really was so they were about to or did split. Days later she claimed pregnant to which many here called BS. She wasn’t making it up though.

In reading back Daughter clearly pulled back when OW was found out. To which OW now GF encouraged Wolf to drop his daughter and not look back. So she was acting like this back then already. At least showing signs of it. Was it going to get better? Was that the Hope?

I don’t want to beat up on Wolf. But for anyone reading along, this happens all the time. Don’t think you’ll be different.

- Don’t date for at least a year after D - for sure don’t get into an R
- children will often spell success/failure in second or third marriages
- consider putting all focus on raising kids to 18 before getting into an R
- If you do date, do not introduce kids for 6 months minimum
- choose wisely! You won’t see who someone really is for as long as 2 years
- do not risk bringing another life into the world. Pregnancy can be avoided.

As for you Wolf, you really do need to start protecting yourself. You can also try validating and working this all out but the chances of success are not good. If it does not last you need to stop dating and learn to be happy by yourself. The last thing you’ll need is for any of this to repeat again.