There are other things more important, but I am going to address this:
Originally Posted by FwdMvmnt
I asked her if she could take it outside and she said no
This is a controlling statement. DO NOT TRY TO CONTROL HER. See how she says NO. Now what?
Originally Posted by FwdMvmnt
I asked her if she could take the shower upstairs.
Again, you are trying to control her.
Who knows if she is attempting to bait you, but you have to leave her alone. Ya, smoking in the house [censored], but in the big picture, who cares? Focus on your 6yo.
I agree 100 %
The first words that came to mind were...
Stop playing the game....
Stop trying to fix her...
Stop trying to change her mind...
Stop trying to figure out what she is doing...
Stop trying to have a rational conversation with an irrational person...
Stop reitterating the schedule to her. Print that beotch out and hang it on the fridge...
This didn't break overnight , and it won't settle overnight.
There isn't any singular conversation that either of you will walk away from thinking ...ahhhh, that's the fix !!
Nor will there be anything you will say that will make her say....I really messed up. let' fix this...
It's small consistent actions of being a better person, doing things in a different way, that MAY one day turn her head around.
Until that time, focus on actually finding and being that person....
Tell me more about you Fwd....likes, interests, hobbies....you know, things that are just you...
