Wolfman Moving Forward 5

[DonH]

Wolf I’ve mentioned in other posts a national radio doc I first heard in my early days of working in radio some 40 years ago. She’s still on the radio, currently XM. She very often states the largest reason for failed Rs in second marriages is due to children from the previous R. She will never feel the same way about your children as she does about the child you and her have together. If the house is on fire and she can only save one child is there any doubt in your mind who it will be?

She clearly wants a man with no previous children. That’s very unlikely to change. Your kids are suffering because if it. They already have had their life ripped apart. Now they have lost you to her. I totally agree with G you losing your D is very likely due to her. If you are accurate in what you tell us, she seems like a huge spoiled brat. Daddies little princess I’m guessing. Even when he doesn’t bow down to her, you see how she responds. She wants her way. She doesn’t want to compromise. She got involved and got knocked up by a newly divorced man with previous children. Now she wants him to abandon these children. Sounds like a dream girl. Of course that’s sarcasm because it sounds like a nightmare with a spoiled little brat that has a whole lot of growing up to do.

But I’m just going to be honest here - you put yourself in this sitch. We told you not to date so fast, not to get involved so fast. You knew better. Now you’re in the sitch you are in. And yet another child is going to be impacted. So what do you do? That’s a huge question - likely above our pay grade to answer. If we take what you say at full face value, she’s got a lot of growing up to do. People often don’t change. They are who they are. That’s why it’s so very important to choose wisely. I don’t know how to change her. If the only answer is to throw your previous kids away to try to make her happy the price is way too high. My advice is you DO NOT sacrifice your S in hopes of making her happy. There are ways to show her you value her without putting your kids last. She needs to learn how to share. I suspect that’s something she’s never done. Is she an inky child by any chance?

I wish I had better advice. Perhaps tune to XM 111 this afternoon and listen the advice given.