Thank you for the responses, this morning already starting out with conflict. I’ll start with some of the questions on here.
She is burning household items in the fire pit in the back yard. I’m not sure what all she has burned although I do know she burned the wind chimes I gifted her, so I imagine is stuff that is has to do with our marriage.
I understand that there is most likely an affair either physical or emotionally which is the difference in her moods when she returns.
I am totally working my program.
The end of the last night consisted of me watching shows with D18 who not sure if I mentioned is in town from college for the holidays. During this my W came in from outside with her phone music blaring while we were watching with out saying a word. I asked her if she had headphones, she said they didn’t know where they were at. She kept playing it, so I asked if she could turn it down. She then said I’m almost done. I paused the show and D18 and I sat there. After a few minutes I just asked D18 if wanted to watch in the other room, she said it’s ok, so I went outside for a few minutes. My W eventually went outside and the went to bed. I Didn’t speak anymore to her the rest of the night.
Back to this morning. She came in to the bedroom to see if we were awake, I was in the bathroom getting ready for work and let her know we would be out soon. I locked the door, while I was getting dressed, which I have never done. She came back again and asked why the door was locked. I said I was getting dressed. She made a comment about that’s new, not sure why you are doing that. About 10 min later I made S6 breakfast he has been sick the last couple days and is refusing to go to school at this time. So trying to work through that and He followed me in the bedroom while I was getting his cloths. She comes into the room and told him she was going to take a shower and then she’d drive him to school. The weird part was that she was smoking a cigarette when she came in. I asked her if she could take it outside and she said no, I’m going to take a shower. I asked her if she could take the shower upstairs. She immediately told me that there is no boundaries around showering and that I am abusing her again. I simply stated that she wants a separation and that this is my space. I did record this conversation. Going to make that a habit, I looked on line and it seems my state is a one party consent state. I made a call to a couple l just to be safe that I can hopefully talk to at some point today. She ended up grabbing her shower items and went upstairs. Before that she came back into the living room and told me she was going to let the Safe House know how I am emotional abusing her and that she is hiring a lawyer and filing for divorce. I said do what you have to, and that there isn’t any emotional abuse. This on record too. That brings me to present moment. I will post throughout the day with updates.
