FM, I'm also strongly urging you to stay in close contact with your sponsor and people in your support group who know more about your sitch than you can safely divulge here. They can advise you a whole lot better than we can.
Also, be very sure that you keep this site and and DR/DB books to yourself. This is YOUR resource. You would probably also benefit from a private session with Michele Weiner Davis. I say this because of the active addiction component in your sitch. I really do think you need professional help.
It's important to remember that she's the mother of your children, and will be in your life in a greater degree until your 6 year old is an adult. She will also be the other grandparent in the fullness of time. Whenever possible, take the high road. Think about how you want your kids to look back at this time when they're adults. What do you want them to say about you and your actions?
Again, focus on your core values and what you want. Don't say your family. That's not what I mean. I'm talking about something different. What's most important to you? Peace? Love? Fellowship? Partnership? Really take the time to figure that out. It will become your North Star.
Good luck.
Last edited by bttrfly; 12/13/2211:52 AM.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
