this burning stuff business is very concerning.
if she's not using she's sure acting like it.

yes this is a pro-marriage site, and I am very anti-divorce but the more I read the more concerned I become about the welfare of you and your children.

lawyer up. get referrals, especially for a good father's rights lawyer. make sure it's not someone who will bleed you dry and add more drama. interview these people. keep a list of the names of the lawyers you go to, because your wife will not be able to use them if you've already had an initial consult. Make sure you let them know of the drug use history and current issues and especially about the parental alienation.

Remember, you don't have to do anything with the information you receive, but you need to know the laws in your state, and what your rights and responsibilities are as well as how to best protect your children, yourself and your assets.

I'm going to be brutally honest FM ... you need to accept that the old marriage is dead and gone. If there's any hope for the two of you it's going to come sometime down the road after she and you have both had time to work on yourselves, and the best way to do that given her current state is by doing so apart.

Remember, who are we to deprive an addict of their pain or their bottom? You also don't need to precipitate a crisis, but tell me honestly - how much more harm is being caused to your children by her being in the home just in the past few days?

she's toxic and I don't believe, from what you've laid out here, that your home is safe for your littlest one.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver