Good question. I suppose I have to tolerate it if I don’t want things to end now. I think there is zero chance she finds a new job if I push it. She knows how much it bothers me yet wouldn’t look for a new job when I asked. Maybe I’m wrong, but if she is unsure about our future I don’t think an ultimatum will work in my favor. I will say it’s getting harder to tolerate, I might be getting close to pushing the issue. Good to hear from you by the way.
Mikey P I am one of the few people here who is a fan of ultimatums. Why? Because people respond to them. My son while using my car was late to responding to my texts. Son if you don’t respond to my text you will not use my car. Guess who started responding to my texts? The reason why was because he knows I will follow through. That’s when ultimatums and boundaries work when the other person knows you mean it.
Right now if you say it’s either the job or me she will likely pick the job. The reason why is because she doesn’t think she will ever have those tingly feelings for you again. So you can play the long game and work on self improvement, GAL and eventually she will either commit back or D you in which you will most likely eventually find someone better. Or you can decide this doesn’t work for you and LOVINGLY let her know this situation no longer works for you and you are out and act accordingly.
Either way you have to live with yourself. You want to be able to tell your kids you did everything in your power to keep your family together.
So my entire last post was basically that you never should tolerate something that goes against your beliefs and values.
