When is the right time to have conversations with a wayward wife.
Short answer : When she initiates.
Your main goal is to listen. Focus on every single word like you want to remember the whole conversation. Stay out of your head. Even more important, you want to understand her emotional state when she is talking. Which of the main six? Then try to figure out the sub level. Look up "emotional feeling wheel". Most people do not deal with the "Scary" emotions like anger as easily as they do with the "Good" emotions like happy. You should be able to deal with all of them the same way. "You look happy", "You sound angry", "I bet you were frustrated" should all be easily said.
Create a "topic" in your head. Kids,Money,Work,Relationship,Christmas etc
If the topic is relationship, keep your needs and opinions to yourself. "I am not sure" "I have not thought about that" "I need time to process what you are telling me" are perfectly good responses. Control your emotions. IF you feel like they will get out of your control, end the convo before they control you. One of many ways to end : "Thanks for sharing, I have something I have to do" and leave.
Google "henry cloud"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
