Mach, Here are my answers to the questions you asked and thank you for your post!
What do you want ???? I want to be healthy, happy and spiritually for. Ideally this includes my family intact with my W.
What are you willing to work for ??? I am willing to work 100% on getting myself better and the best interests of my family
How badly do you really want this ??? My family is the most important thing to me in my life, next to God. There is nothing I want more in this life. I can’t do anything for them if I am not my best self.
<<<insert Family Feud Clap>>>
Good answers...
Is what happened this past weekend, the best that you can do ???
Cause I want you to think about this for now...
When, and typically, when a person finds themselves here, and asking the kinds of questions that you are, and having the kind of interactions that you are having...
The marriage that you once knew is over and gone.
And I see so much of you still trying to (understandable at this point) use the rules of the old marriage and apply to whatever this new situation is....
Being all of that for you, is exactly as it is written.......for you
One thing I want to bring up is the religious part of this.
I do understand how and why you feel that way..
In all of my years here, I have NEVER seen a WAS turn because of their faith.
I've seen major work done after their bottom because of it, yet never a turn in the heat of the battle....
I can tell you that although it might be a hill that you are willing to stand on, make sure that it is YOUR hill for now....She won't be beside you.
One thing that a WAS fears the most is judgement, and a close second being the guilt that they are having because of their decisions.
And you my new friend, have the Grand Prize Winner there in Catholicism..
She will turn her back on religion, especially Catholicism because of that . The most common line that I've heard is that my religion turned it's back on me when I needed it, so I am turning my back on it now.
Just be prepared, if that is your hard line, to have it crossed.
Make sense ??
For now though, she isn't YOUR answer to get where you want to be....
So maybe stop looking to her for those answers..
Family ? Man, don't depend on them either.
For her family ?
Blood is way thicker than water, remember that always, and even if it doesn't seem that way now, eventually they will show their true colors.
Yours?
Man, this isn't an open mic forum to bash her. Keep it light and let them know that this is your decision, and they either support YOU, or it's not up for discussion.
Keep that path smooth for down the road. It's easier to walk that way....
One thing that was always in the back of my mind during this was....
This will all be public knowledge one day...
What would I want my kids to read, when it is.....
