She's in a better mood because she got what she wanted.

Credit card lock - you did the best you could with what info you had to work with ... the important thing is to learn from this and move on, not making the same mistake again.

Maybe work on being more clear about stating your boundaries in future. I still think you need to see a lawyer - or a few - as soon as possible to gather information about what your rights and responsibilities are, especially if she's burning things and texting family members.

Also keep that MC appointment, and maybe you can suggest she attend so you can work together on boundary setting since regardless of the state of the marriage you are co-parenting four kids.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver