It's not the same woman. It's the same woman in active addiction/alcoholism with no program and no recovery.

Program says women stay with the women and guys stay with the guys, especially when they're new or just coming back.

Good job bringing your son into the other room.

How do you feel about the continued emotional abuse in front of your kids? While it's true you can't control someone else, especially an active addict/alcoholic, you have absolute control over your response.

I think the first thing you may want to think about is what lessons your kids are learning from this situation and watching / hearing her abuse you and what you can or want to do about that. Parental alienation is a real thing and not to be taken lightly.

regarding what she said to your son --- you're doing the right thing by telling him she's angry and that you love him. Keep him close. Whatever happens you're going to be dealing with her until your youngest is out of college, potentially. As tough as it is, keep taking the high road. Vent here. Are you working with a MC?

Last edited by bttrfly; 12/11/22 06:19 PM.
M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver