You realize I'm a woman, right? It's always so fascinating to me when you guys start telling us women about what female attraction is or isn't.
LH is back so I'll leave this side of the board to him.
Discussing female attraction wasn't aimed at you, but Brandon. LBHs forget that commanding respect in these situations is paramount to just about everything else. Even if sometimes it is perceived as being a bit of a jerk. As stated, I prefer that over the over NGS so many of us default too.
Too be honest, I don't really assign a lot of import to the gender of the posters here, save the OP of the thread. Everyone brings a good perspective, and when there are disagreementsI prefer discussing them openly and without attack, like I feel was happening here. The thing that is so awesome about this forum is Brandon gets to hear those perspectives and decide how to proceed for himself. Bttrfly, I think your perspective here was great, even if I didn't agree with 100% of it! Keep helping the posters here, that's why they come here .
I sincerely hope the discussion caused no hard feelings.
There are ways to command true respect that don't cross a line. That's the kind of respect to aim for regardless of whether you're dealing with a male or female errant spouse. We aren't trying to be our spouses' domineering parent, rather we need to demonstrate in word and deed that we are an equal who deserves respect.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
