Locking the credit card was a reaction, rather than a thought out response.
If you are concerned about spending and money management then deal with that before things pop up.
For example, when my W left and moved in with OM, her and I were joint on everything. She (and him) could have charged up a storm on “our” good credit of 30+ years. I called the card company and asked what options I had for limiting my financial liability. I had to cancel the card, pay it off in full, then get a new one issued in just my name.
Take planned actions rather than unplanned reactions.
Locking your credit card may have been for the best; I’m not sure what the future in which unfettered credit access held in store. However, do realize that she can do the same to you. You may find yourself locked out of things too. Fighting usually begets fighting.
Sorry buddy. I know this is a tough road. Lots of pothole and twists and turns.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
