FM, I don't know your sitch entirely but I will read up when I have more time over the next few days. I'm sorry I don't have time today to do so.

I did want to jump on one thing you said - she's not currently working her SLA program ... you can't do anything about that, but you sure as h#ll can work one of your own. There are family groups for the A programs ... even if it's not a family group specific to sex addiction here's the dirty little secret - every addiction is the same: shopping, sex, food, alcohol, drugs ... doesn't matter, just a different way to try to fill the emptiness the addict feels inside. so an alanon family group can offer you some guidance and help. i strongly suggest you search for one in your area. while most are meeting again in person, there are also many which meet via zoom.

this is one major step you can take for yourself which will help you with detachment. Once you have reached a certain level of detachment you'll be able to find some peace and have some space to think more clearly about yourself and what you want.

Think about it.

xoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver