Wow man this is tough to follow. First off anytime she feels she is losing control she will threaten divorce in attempt for you to submit to her because she knows you don’t want it. Secondly, when a woman calls a man the P-word it is the ultimate showing of disrespect. Buying lingerie on your account and telling you she wants to sleep with other man. DISRESPECT.
Not gonna lie to you F you are going to need a lot of strength to turn this around.
Before we get into all of that, have you seen a lawyer because that should be your first step?