Hi BL42, We did decide to get married when she was pregnant. 1. I did not have any significant relationships before her, and she had a 4 year relationship through high school. We were not together very long before getting married. Both of our parents are still married. 2. There were issues in the past. She overdosed on pills back in 2008, and Has had 3-4 episodes of acting out over the years. The first time we didn’t treat as an addiction but she went into outpatient rehab for alcohol. Realized she had a sex addiction when she started hooking up with people at AA. I was her drinking buddy and drank too much myself. I am very aware of my responsibilities of why we are where we are. I went into major codependent mode after the pill episode, but didn’t look at that until recently. I have been working Al Anon 12 steps and not drinking since this last episode went down. 3. She’s giving me the I love you but not in love with you. As well as I’m not sure I’ve ever loved you. Up until today, when I told her she needed to sleep elsewhere and that I didn’t want her at my Christmas and not going to hers, she was still saying I love you and giving kisses and hugs. We have had some passionate kisses and each time she says it’s a mistake. 4. We haven’t had sex in almost 5 months. The recommendation when starting SA trecovery was 3-6 months. 5. She says she is still sober, but is not working her program. I don’t believe it and hence my decision.
