Marching in limbo with MLC H

[BL42]

marching,

A D doesn't make a huge difference for me financially.

If there's no advantage filing in one country vs. the other, and if there's no real financial difference in between married or divorced, then there's no real motivation for you to drive it and you can ride out the status quo.

I definitely don't want to do anything that pushes a D forward. Maybe I am being thick, but I am not sure how I can avoid moving the D along without being passive aggressive or manipulative—and pushing H further away in the process.

If you don't want to, than don't. I agree w/SteveLW, bttrfly, and DnJ. This is your H's desire, not yours - so let him push it forward if he wants. You can even tell him "I don't want a divorce and would like to work on the marriage, so I've decided not to pursue any paperwork - but I won't stand in your way if that is what you want." That's not passive-aggressive; that's being honest and straightforward about your stance.