yeah - I can't even stand being close friends with people pleasers. they aren't safe. you don't know what's real and what isn't. I get it's a trauma response, but d@mn, being on the other end of it leaves you wondering who the person really is, or if they even know themselves.
I'm really glad you recognized that about yourself.
Definitely a trauma response for me. I spent a lifetime trying to get my mom to like me and then my ex husband. I thought if I just made everyone happy they would.
Definitely doesn’t work that way, but it’s a hard habit to break
