Me: "I just wanted to let you know I've decided not go to the counseling session tomorrow if you want to let XXX know. We don't need another meeting to discuss a break. I feel like counseling has just been more pressure for you. I feel I already have made what I want very clear these past few months and there just isn't a reason for us to go any longer for now. I want to respect what you said about feeling done with the relationship."
Originally Posted by SteveLW
While this isn't bad. It is still too many words. I would suggest:
"I've decided not to continue with counseling, if you want to let XXX know. I do not think we need it to discuss a break, and I feel continuing would be a waste of time."
I agree. The action was good, too many words.
One thing I have learned:
Use the least amount of words to get the point across. The less words, the more of an impact.
Like Steve said, this is more art than science. Self edit your self as much as possible.
If I said anything, it would be this:
H: "I've decided not to continue with counseling". W:"Why?" H: "I have something more important to do" W: "What?"
Really think hard about when and how to answer the "What?" question. Apply everything you have learned since BD.
ouch. there's detachment, and then there's that statement ^^^
I think something like: H: I've decided not to continue with the counseling - can you please let xxx know?
W: Why?
H: I don't think its the best use of my time.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
