br4nd0n, I've been following along and I agree with the previous posters. It's hard to stop thinking about how your W may be thinking or feeling about things, but ultimately it doesn't matter. The things she says and does will not be rational and your brain will try to rationalize it. I wish I could get back the time I spent the past few months analyzing my wife's thoughts, feelings, reactions, whereabouts, etc. and do literally anything else with that time. I still analyze some things I shouldn't, but I've learned that most of that time was wasted and had zero impact on my situation other than negatively affecting my own mood/behavior. It also has led to me making mistakes that pushed her further away, such as getting in conversations I shouldn't have, snooping on the computer and checking if she was actually at a friend's house and not lying to me. All of these situations occurred because I was focused on my W instead of myself. It's difficult and will improve with time, but the quicker you can shift your attention toward yourself, the better you will feel.
