If you were going to institute a tough love approach what would it look like?
I'm honestly not sure. Like you've said in the past, there's a large incentive to keep the peace when two people live together, with family, etc. Also like you've said, this is going to work itself out one way or another.
Originally Posted by LH19
Doug this is absolutely a multiple year process.
Lovely. Did I mention that W is getting the boob job in 2 weeks? Perhaps I'll find that my W is indeed a slow, methodical creature like yours was. I would be shocked and disgusted if she wound up leaving straight for another man. If she couldn't resist wanting out due to the MLC, craving independence and wanting to stand on her own, I guess I could at least sort of understand a tad.
Originally Posted by LH19
What are the other reasons?
I mean, we're not divorced yet and I'm not getting anything on the side (which would be blatantly stupid for a guy posting on an anti-divorce forum). If W wants to initiate, it just proves that I'm not a monster, right?
When I said there is a large incentive to keep the peace I meant that’s what got you here. You and her glossed over things in your relationship while the resentment built. For a relationship to be successful you have to have it out every once in awhile and address the issues. Than decide if you can fix these issues. If you can’t come to an agreement you have to be willing to walk. Yes she will either commit back to the marriage, things will remain the same or you will divorce.
Yep and she ain’t getting the girls done for you. Sorry to say but deep down I think you know it. Does your w seem like the independent type?
Yeah I’m cool with you getting your freak on as long as you know it’s not helping matters. I did it because I knew I was getting a D.
Doug you are young have young kids so no shame in riding it out. Unfortunately things will have to get worse before they get better that is the $ucky part of this process.
