Marching in limbo with MLC H

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marching,

I'd appreciate any thoughts from the wise people here on what to do next, now that H has apparently given me the reins on the divorce. It's weird position to be in.

Is there a financial benefit to staying married or getting divorced, or does it not matter? If you're benefited by staying legally married (E.g., he makes way more money or something) than I'd let him do any pursuit of the D. If staying married will hurt you financially you may want to move it forward. If there's no real impact, than you can take your time and decide how to proceed. Think of this as the "business" side of the R. Locking in your financial/business outcome is separate to whether or not you two end up in a relationship going forward.

I definitely prefer it to not being rushed and pressured, but now I am supposed to take the lead on a divorce I don't want?! My hunch is to do nothing while I sort out other aspects of my life, which will take at least another 2 months.

You don't HAVE to do anything. You do what's best for you - he wants to D you and has therefore removed himself from your consideration for now.