Walkaway Wife Help

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br4nd0n,

I've definitely backed way off. Trying to "drop the rope".

Good! But keep in mind consistent actions...it can't be a day or two and then flip back.

Me: "I just wanted to let you know I've decided not go to the counseling session tomorrow if you want to let XXX know. We don't need another meeting to discuss a break. I feel like counseling has just been more pressure for you. I feel I already have made what I want very clear these past few months and there just isn't a reason for us to go any longer for now. I want to respect what you said about feeling done with the relationship."

W: "Ok, I still may go."

Me: "That's fine. You can go on your own tomorrow to get some advice if you think that might be helpful"

A little wordy maybe, and too many "I feels" perhaps, but sounds decent overall.

I have also backed off on doing dishes/emptying dishwasher.

Doesn't mean you shouldn't do your share - just don't bend over backwards doing everything in the hopes it'll save the M.

This morning I saw her doing the dishes, emptying the dishwasher, and it made me realize she hadn't had to do any of that for a long time since the BD.

Then she'll be doing them quite a bit more if she decides to move out.

I've just been focusing on my daughter and doing things for her.

Perfect. You and your daughter should be your priority.