Forgot to add a big detail: I applied for retirement today and should be officially retired on my birthday 1/1! I've looked forward to this moment for so long, now I'm a little apprehensive about it. Going to take a month or so off to work on the house and myself. Get back to work somewhere after that.
Congrats on filing for retirement!
Remember the advice you got here, and make sure to consult L about the implications of retirement and a new job in relation to the possibility of divorce. Be smart financially and make a good business decision:
Originally Posted by BL42
Originally Posted by Kind18
If it looks like she is imminently going to file, I’d retire. Go through the divorce and financial split while you are retired. She gets her money at that point based on you not earning any more. Perhaps won’t get alimony if you’ve retired.
Get the $$s split done so you lose as little as possible. Once it’s all squared away, then you can look at deciding to get a new job.
If you start a new job, well paid, and then she files - it could put you in a much worse financial position.
Kind18's advice seems VERY wise. Way better to base support off a retirement / little income than a nice new flashy job. Be smart. And don't feel bad about getting the best deal. SHE is the one who wants a divorce.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
