Aside from that, not much else has popped up. I finished reading DR again. I was upset about the stagnation of things a few days ago, but then read in DR where Michele talks about taking a step back and trying to see any small changes. I have noticed a few.
W was proactive about being the one to handle dinner this week. It was something I was trying to figure out how to address with her, as I set a plan to split weeks and last time she didn’t follow through. Sunday she brought it up by saying “I’ve got dinner this week, right?” Problem solved.
W has actually come home at night the past several times she went out with her friends.
W has been doing a little more around the house than she was previously. Still not very helpful, but a small improvement.
She has spent a little less time hiding in the bathtub or in her bed downstairs. She ate dinner with the family twice in the past week, something she hadn’t done in months.
So small improvements. My counselor said I may be grasping at straws. Possibly. But he isn’t able to compare the past 2 weeks to her behavior prior to that. We’ll see how the next few weeks go.
Also, W invited me to go to a holiday light parade last night. She originally asked if I wanted to go today and I said she could just take the kids. This morning she said she is going next Friday and asked if I wanted to get off work early and go. I believe she is going with a friend’s family based on how she phrased it. I said I’d think about it and let her know. I don’t plan on going and I intend to go out with friends instead. It’s hard to say no to things like this, but I feel it’s the right decision. I am trying to avoid as much joint activities so W feels like she is at least missing something from me. It’s a 180 for me as I’m usually the puppy dog following whatever she comes up with. I feel good about the thought process, even though it’s hard not spending those moments with the kids. I’ve been spending a ton of time with them doing other things though, so I’ll see how this goes as well.
