The point is well taken on not going to the next couples therapy session.
However, where we left the last one after talking about how the date didn't change her mind, still feeling done, etc. was the acknowledgement that we need a "break" as our next step.
Well, we live together and that isn't changing so the counselor kept this next session on the books (scheduled for tomorrow). The counselor kept the session on the book to discuss what a "break" would look like.
You do not need to go to counseling to discuss a break. If she wants to separate she can pack up her stuff in a box and leave. Period. I'm serious. Good luck w/that, W!
You need to change your mentality from one of fearfulness to embracing it. With the former she sees you as a scared meek guy she can get back whenever she wants. With that latter she thinks "Oh! Wow. He stood up for himself and he's not afraid to lose me. Maybe I should reconsider this..."
Originally Posted by br4nd0n
Which I am...I'm heartbroken and I don't want to loose my wife...so It's tough.
We know exactly how you feel. It's devastating. Hang in there...it'll be OK in the end.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
