I already have a muscular build. People can tell I lift weights when they see me.
I’m definitely a fitness bodyfat type build but I’ve never been quite lean/cut enough to have a six pack. It requires an incredible dedication to diet and Ab training.
Maybe your effort for personal growth could be directed someplace else. Going from fit to ripped most likely won't change her mind (or in the future attract a significant more number of ladies).
Only you can figure out what areas to focus on. Take a hard look at your behaviors. You can reflect on how you interact with her. Are there better ways of interacting with a woman? Most likely. None of us have it completely figured out, but with some reading and observations, we can improve. That is what it is about. Having an awareness that there is always a better version of ourselves that we can let shine through.
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