Well when I first got the advice, as you saw from my update, I was only halfway applying the principles.
Today was the first day forward since hearing the hard truth yesterday in couples therapy that my W still feels done with the R despite that date we had.
Ready to detach now and I know I have to.
I’ve been into fitness for awhile already. I always lift 4-5 days a week for about an hour.
I already have a muscular build. People can tell I lift weights when they see me.
I’m definitely a fitness bodyfat type build but I’ve never been quite lean/cut enough to have a six pack. It requires an incredible dedication to diet and Ab training.
One of my goals now is to just do it. I’ve always wanted to do it but thought it was just too hard but I’m going to just put in the work for once and do it for me.
I’ve also been making an effort to spend more quality time with my D11. Even just simple things like talking with her more about her day, playing board/card games, etc.
I’m also working on spending more time with good friends of mine. Being in a relationship/married, it’s easy to loose track of time and not see them as often so I’m really working on that.
I need to find other things but that’s a start.
A question - I know you are supposed to do things like connect back with friends and to make her be curious about my whereabouts. Do you tell her what you are doing/going? Or do you just say “hey I made some plans and will be out”.
