br4nd0n,

Did you read Sandi2's 37 Rules yet?

What have we been saying directly to you, and what advice have you read from other threads?

*Do NOT engage in MC unless W is fully committed to make the R work.
*Do NOT initiate R talks.
*Do NOT pressure or pursuit.
*Detach
*Give space

How did anything in your approach/update align with that advice?

Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21