You really are a passenger on this ride. The minute you start trying to direct things, they will rebel.
If you tell a WS/WAW/MLC in crisis they have to accept the sky is blue, they will scream (and also be convinced in their own mind) that it’s pink.
Every time you do stuff like try to seduce her or go to counselling with a view to getting her to realise something or commit to something, you’re getting closer to the end of your marriage.
She needs to work this stuff out for herself and WANT to be with you.
