So you weren't willing to have sex with W, and she was the frustrated one? Was it just a physical attraction thing, or were there other issues at play? What happened along the way? You could get some perspective on how W was feeling about that. If you're not sexually attracted to her and don't want to have sex with her why are you trying to DB? And for the kids and to keep the family together is a perfectly good answer, but are you willing to work on the other aspect?
At first it was OK and like I said that it got awkward where we would try simple things that we would mess up. she wasn’t as flexible as I was used to, we would get out of sync, she was heavier ( solid). Couldn’t move her around. Stuff I didn’t experience with other girls. Then I started having erection issues because of all of this stuff. We both agreed that sex was awkward and kept putting it off. Definitely trying DB for the kids and to get back to where my W and I were in the beginning. If W wants to reconcile, SSM will have to be addressed. Plus relationship classes. We will need to find the right IC to make it stick.
M:51 W:43 T:17 M:15 S:13 D11 10/2022 BD/IHS 03/2023 W moves out
