DnJ, wow, what a transformation in your ex—from utter cruelty at the Thanksgiving Dinner From Hell to being vulnerable and kind at your son's wedding. Thanks so much for sharing. I really have no idea what's going on in H's mind, so hearing about your experience helps me get a sense of just how chaotic the MLC brain must be. It helps with detaching with compassion. Non-foggy-brained H would be appalled by current H's behavior.
My stuff is still with H in Country B because I don't have my own place at the moment (I'm staying with family).
BL42, thanks so much for reading and responding. I really appreciate your tip re: not explaining myself to him and will keep that in mind for future communication. I hear what you're saying about my age and not having kids. It's true, I have a lot of freedom now. It's not what I wanted, but...I guess it's not bad.
As for the questions about legal matters—yes, I'm getting legal advice. Absurd that it has come to this so quickly.
