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[BL42]

MikeP,

so, as the parent of a student athlete at the time of BD I couldn't stand being there with my h so we would switch off games. Really hard. Or we would sit on opposite sides of the venue. this may or may not work for you.

I started coaching my son's sports teams. I'm on the third year now of soccer and baseball. Mostly I did it to stay engaged as much as possible with my son's life, but a side benefit is I'm never on the sidelines next to ExW & ExMIL and that drama...I'm on the other side of the field engrossed in coaching. I do feel a little bad about my parents being there having to deal with it, especially my mom I know it's tough on here. However, it's also been a blast working with my son and his buddies and many say "Hey Coach BL42!" even outside sports like school pickup.

The thing is we get along great. If you didn’t know better you would think everything thing is good. Of course it’s that way because I am trying my best to forgive her for the affair. She is not sure what she wants in terms of us, but outwardly appears happy. This is what makes it so hard for me. She isn’t angry, treats me good, etc. So going to ball games together isn’t a problem. Her actions make it hard to not feel like things are going well, her words say otherwise.

This is definitely a weird phenomenon. The outward superficial façade of everything looks great to others in public, but the underlying unsettledness of the situation in real life at home. Makes you wonder what other couples you see out there that look like the happy family and couple who are going through something similar...

I wish I could meet some of you in person. It would be so nice to just sit and talk rather than type.

There a DB coaches that offer sessions so you can talk things out. Also, have you looked into divorce support groups in person? They can be helpful. Though for your sitch with W back in the house and saying she wants to work on things that's potentially premature.

MikeP - Have you read Reeling - Is it a MLC or?? She just came back after a few months with a WH/WAH who was giving indications of working on things. It is NOT the same as yours - so I don't want to discourage you on your sitch which I think is in better shape than many posters' here - just thought there are some similarities you may can something out of her thread.