My wife says she is done

[Dats000]

BL42, thanks for your response. Sorry I don’t know how to put your original post in my reply but I did respond.

She was 24 I was 33 when we met at a co-Ed volley ball league. Dated a little over a year. She had at least one serious relationship and I had one relationships in high school and a second in college. Her parents still married my parents divorced when I was one Hurley brother severely autistic so I thought she had great model parents to stay married under those circumstances.

If she already consulted an attorney things are very serious, so it's crucial you consulted one as well. I'm sure your W and L separate occasions covered these major points:

*Custody - Do not settle for anything less than 50/50. Wife ok with 50/50
*Child Support - we make about the same
*Assets - I live in an Equal Distribution state? I owned a house that will have non-marital asset. She doesn’t want our house we live in. said she would take the house that we rent out that I owned before our marriage and sell it.
*Spousal Support - We make about the same amount of money

IF there are better deals to be had in the D, usually they come quickly. Noted, thanks.

10 years without sex is a LONG time.
- If you watch Michelle’s sex starved marriage Ted talk that is similar to what happened to us. Oddly enough in my other two longer relationships I couldn’t get enough sex. In this one physical attraction wasn’t so much there and It just got awkward.

She resented me and eventually closed off any type of touch or kisses

You also say "I’ve heard she wasn’t happy off and on for the entire marriage". The entire marriage? If true, that's very telling.

You do seem a bit more practical and even-keeled than most. I’m a great guy and she knows it,but when I get off track I become negative and my anxiety gets the best of me. so when things go bad I immediately assume doom. We did counseling after a couple years of the marriage and that worked great. Then we got off track and on auto pilot and everything started going bad again. she just gave up and told me that I needed to make it work. I saw my IC got back on track and she was happy as can be with me. Then my boss started pushing me out of my job for about two years. Then Covid came and I got it real bad and then had health anxiety really bad for about a year. that’s about six years of me with some pretty bad anxiety issues on and off. Now I’m seeing my IC again for my W wanting the D. IC got me back on track, but this time my wife wants nothing to do with me Now I’m here writing to you.

Cut out ANY negativity cold-turkey as a 180. Not convinced that's the single issue which is going to change things, but doesn't hurt to implement it - and probably best for any of your relationships (friends, family, W...etc) anyway.

Sorry to ask, but...any signs of an affair? Nothings yet