DnJ, thanks so much for the wise words and encouragement. I hope to be his lighthouse, but how do I do this when there is such limited contact? During our business communications (only ever through text), I am polite and efficient. Is there a way I can show him that the door is open without pursuing? I suppose he knows that I don't want a D...
Kind18, thanks for the welcome. It's hurts to think about an affair. But I comfort myself with the wisdom shared here that MLC spouses are incapable of having healthy relationships with anyone in their current state and that the APs are very troubled people. I haven't asked H about it.
Yep, quite the rollercoaster, this MLC-divorce business. My head knows that I just need to keep moving forward, take things day by day, and focus on myself. My heart still longs for H and comes up with unlikely reconciliation scenarios.
(For example, what if H starts changing his mind over the holidays??) (I know, I know, that would be way too soon in the MLC process.)
It's taking time for my heart to catch up with my head. I'm aware of this lag and definitely do not want to make any big decisions from a place of high emotion—unlike, ahem, our MLCers.
