I just like to go out with someone once a week for dates that last 5 to 7 hours. I'm happy to do it for as long as its fun and I prefer to do that with one person at a time. I'm willing to and do text in between dates. But after about 4 or 5 months of that, women ask where its going and there's a disconnect between my long-term plans and theirs.
Spiral
yup. makes sense to me! personally I seem to have become quite adept at "safe dating" but I don't even bother doing that anymore. Way more effort than I can muster. Plus for me that usually includes live music and there's nothing I really want to see right now touring in my area.
Interesting spiral. So basically, when a woman is ready to take it to a deeper emotional level, it’s not what you want, so it ends. Making you generally emotionally unavailable. But sex and fun once a week and fun flirty banter is all you want. Which of course is fine. I am curious as to how well this is communicated before by you in the beginning ?
So I guess that’s a part of my problem. I do want to form an emotional connection with someone. Eventually. And most men I meet are like you. Not quite like you, honestly, I would be totally happy with one fun day a week and some flirty fun banter in between. That’s reasonable and a good place to build. I don’t even have the capacity at present to spend more than 2 days a week with someone anyways. But yeah, I guess I am so far ahead, that I would like to see a progression at some point, and progression to me means emotionally connection and vulnerability consistency and caring.
Men/people coming out of a long term marriage/ relationship usually want to back out at that point and move on to the next. I’m just in a very different spot than most my age. It does stink for me.
