Wolfman Moving Forward 5

[Wolfman]

Does your son not sleep at your house ?

He only sleeps at my house ever other weekend. Some holidays too. Never during the week on school nights.

I never know what person i am getting. It is mentally exhausting.

I’m stealing this line but “how do you want to live for the rest of your life?”

Do you want to live with someone like this? This is why we need to move slower and more cautiously. Many seem “perfect” in the first months. It’s in the next 12 to 24 months that we learn who the real person is. She seems really difficult to live with. Could there be an underlying reason? Certainly. Will she change? While possible, most do not.

It’s not something you have to answer today but is this the way you want to live the rest of your life? Or even the next 5 years? What about the next 5 months?

This is a great question. I can honestly say, I don't know. Maybe and hopefully with therapy we can iron some of these issues out. I am trying to be real patient, I am trying to be understanding. I really am trying to avoid having to baby mamas. I want the baby to have both parents in his life. At the same time, not bouncing back and forth.

The other issues could very well be her hormones. I have to speak to her about seeing a dr and having her hormones checked.

BL thank you for talking about me standing up for my son. Lately I have had my eyes open. here is something weird.

The 3 days ago out of nowhere my gf said she wanted to speak to me. She said she has a crazy proposition. She said she thinks I should go on dates with other women. I said, what? Why? She said this way I can see what else is out there and I would appreciate her more. She feels i do not appreciate her and everything she does. She mentioned taking care of the baby, doing 3 online classes, cooking on occasion, cleaning, going to my sons games. I felt like this was some kind of trap. i told her i would not do that. i said our focus is to work on our relationship not add other complexities to the situation. Deep down this made me feel like she was projecting, she wants to go out and see what else is out there. Ugh I am so confused. My marriage I was so blindsided by the divorce, so I don't know what is right and wrong. I just feel like I never know what to expect.