W still hasn’t mentioned the D papers and there’s been no real conversation about the future. D18 was concerned about where her stuff would be going when she left. W assured her she’d have a room at one of our houses, which I thought was funny. I am stressing about affording a 3 bedroom house right now and I know I can’t swing a 4 bedroom, especially if it isn’t being used. Pretty sure W can’t either. It’s just weird sifting through the fog she’s in. I probably shouldn’t be analyzing it, and I don’t for the most part, it’s just weird watching someone going through depression/MLC/whatever the hell she’s dealing with. And for whatever reason I’m starting to feel a mixture of anger and empathy rather than just sadness.
Typical WAS. No follow-thru. If you read through the situations here, most LBSs end up being the one to file for D. Because the WAS is usually lazy, and after they state what they want they just expect it will happen. DW17, have you considered setting a drop-dead date? A date that if she isn't recommitted fully back to the marriage then you will hire a lawyer and go file yourself? Do you know how long you are willing to live in the current situation? Being married to someone that clearly doesn't want to be married to you, isn't willing to put any work into the marriage, and goes around making it abundantly clear how miserable they are?
Also, notice that your WAW is in the "just tell them what they want to hear" mode that a lot of WASs default too. Your D18 asked a difficult question, and your WAW gave her an answer she thought she needed to hear. This is typical. They will say whatever is most convenient at that moment. This is why you cannot believe anything she says, and only half of what she does.
Great GAL. Good activities and personal insight (on spending too much time at home). Recognition is the first step to correction. So correct that moving forward and keep focusing on GAL!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
