Escaping the slow grind

[Taz]

Hey all time for an update:

So in September I had my 25th wedding anniversary and my 3rd BD anniversary and not much feeling about either of those. I was in the Key West during the latter and had a great time with friends. Got to stay 2 extra days as Ivan came through and shut down the airport. I had mediation on 11/7 and we came to an agreement. I got to keep the family home. 1/2 of my retirement funds, and 45% of my investment accounts. XW got to keep all of her retirement which offset her 1/2 of the home value. She didn't go after my business or my plot of the family farm but they used it as a bargaining tool to not have to include the post secondary education expenses I have paid since her filing date. I am content with the outcome but don't think it was much different that my original counter offer. My lawyer did a good job and I was very pleased with her work.

So as of 11/10 I am officially divorced. OK, so now what to do? GAL of course! Still hitting the gym hard and walking 5 miles a day minimum. thought about starting running again now that the planter fasciitus in my foot is healed but figured at my age maybe walking is better.

Have read NMG, Art of Seduction, and have a copy of 3% Man on deck next. Would like to put on 10 more pounds of muscle as I'm still down 20lbs from pre BD weight.

Go out with friends at least 3 nights a week and I am fine living alone. No plans for dating in the near future

S23 quit his job and has been taking a gap year(s) from working in the engineering field. He worked as a mountain guide in West Virginia and is currently working at a ski resort in Colorado. The old me would be busting his chops but I have let it go for him to figure out.

S21 took the LSAT and scored a 98%, so it looks like he will be going to law school next year after he graduates with his BSEE in May.

XW? I know that she moved into a new apartment, got a new job and bought a new car. I still haven't seen her since Thanksgiving 2020. I have only received 3 texts from her this year and they were only about business. S23 hasn't seen her in a year and S21 has seen her once. She is a true vanisher. I'm not not sure how I feel about her anymore. Apathetic when it comes to me and confused when it comes her relationship with our sons. I hope for their sake she figures it out. As part of the divorce settlement I have to collect a few things from the house to give her. All items that were hers before we started dating. When I saw the list I chuckled, what a lost soul.

Thanks for all the advice, this group was spot on.

Taz