I do understand how you feel about the holidays and your former spouse tending to make them special. However, once they walk away from all that is good, we are left picking up the pieces of our lives. Sometimes things have to be broken to bits in order to put them back together again, i.e., as new purpose, new people. For example, when we have hurricanes, tornadoes and other disasters that ruin a home, a county, a state, people tend to build back better the next time around. That's what we need to do...build back our own lives, think about the people we were before we met our spouses and try to find deep down in our inner selves, who we want to be. This is our opportunity to rediscover ourselves and learn to smile and make new traditions.
You have grown so much over the years. You have a wonderful grandson and two beautiful little "girls" since joining the forum. Those four legged divas have brought you so much joy and companionship since you adopted them. You wouldn't have thought of adopting them had you not healed enough to open your heart. Tad, do not be afraid to start new traditions, find things that you have never done before and just go with it.
Miracles do happen this time of year. I'll be watching for updates on your adventures and the divas' adventures this holiday season.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
