Mikey P my point was wishing she spoke up is a fantasy because it didn’t happen.
We all have all kinds of wishes of how we wish other people behave. I am sure your W has just as many wishes. That is why you reflect on her list and make choices if they are something that you would like to do long term (Forever). You have control of your behavior, not hers.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
